A useful idea in overcoming mental anxiety is the mind palace. Let it be a comfortable structure, holding the sum of all of your acquired knowledge, where people may decorate and reside in their own room. These perceptions of people could be close family, good friends, single-serving friends, inspirational figures, imaginary characters, or sworn enemies. You make the house rules and you’re the landlord. Shouldn’t the first rule be forbidding enemies from attempting mental trespassing?
In my case, “Mr. X” is the last person that is granted access to my mind palace.
“Mr. X” was an psychologically abusive manager that would mentally tear me apart weekly. I would leave most meetings feeling like the most terrible employee to have ever worked in all of humanity. I felt like an individual so thoroughly incompetent that I shouldn’t even be able to identify colors correctly. “Mr. X” would gain access to my mind palace weekly, tear it apart, then take the master bedroom for his own reclination.
One of my colleagues later told me:
“I would have punched him for how he treated you.”
In the years since my last encounter with “Mr. X,” I’ve cleaned and reclaimed the entirety of my mind palace, so he is not allowed entry when he knocks on my door. I may use his memory as a source of frustration fuel during exercise in the courtyard. He may appear as example of stress demon patterns to observe, to study like a boss in a videogame, before conquering. Otherwise, his reign has ended.
There are other lesser demons that knock on the door to my mind palace.
They may spitefully egg the sides or defecate on the lawn, yet the obvious ones aren’t allowed access. They’re hauled off by the mental trespassing police. So how about those who’ve turned on us? “Mr. X” was charming, after all, along with the equivalent individual that popped into your head, right? Kick them out of your mind palace immediately, burn their possessions, and don’t let them back in!
You are the landlord of your mind palace!
Your mind palace should ideally be a place built entirely of your own fruition. No part of the structure should be debted to anyone. When your mind palace is structurally 100% your own, you’re free to invite the positive elements of people you respect in so that they may decorate their room. Each room will be uniquely covered in their ideas, perspectives, and tools that resonated deeply with you.
Their optional rooms can help fortify your mind palace.
When those stress demons come knocking on your door, if you’ve filled your mind palace with positive perceptions of productive people, then you can keep the front door locked while you consult with your inner crew. They will assemble in your strategy room and provide periphery advisement on how you should act. You may even act without needing to consult any of your inner crew.
Practicing this idea may help alleviate the mental anxiety of stress demons.