“Today, I helped maybe 10 people. Why not 10,000 people?” When I first started working, I was just happy to help anyone I could. As I become more experienced in both work and life, I see the value in both continually improving my work and the lives of others. This effort requires sacrifice. You might sacrifice leisure for study time or steady work for the chance to do more rewarding, better work. Bands are great examples:
Most people shy away from differing opinions. I embrace them! Nirvana is my favorite band, IDKFA dislikes them, and our debate fortified my opinion. Our differing opinions on Avenged Sevenfold, Metallica’s recent tour opener, converged in a civil way. They are William’s (Keyboard Kommander lead programmer) favorite band, IDKFA thought they were mediocre, and I’d see them again. Since “all opinions are valid,” let’s consider the psychology of opinions, especially: why get offended over opinions?
The benefits of waking up early to work on my projects brings the drawbacks of fatigue. Establishing mental fortitude is not easy. Discipline requires sacrificing the complaining that minor aches invite. Pacing is the key to enabling that relentless charge toward the life I want to actually become realistic. I’ve found that snacking throughout the day, and moderating overpriced lunches to instead use that time to nap, works better for me. The reasons are below:
You have more time than you think to work toward the life you want. Even without sacrificing sleep like I regularly do. When I tell people my first alarm typically sounds at 3:40AM, they cringe in agony. I cringe in defeat when I don’t get that solid 2 morning hours for my work. I’m not a morning person. I just know if not now, then when? Here are my results of applying this schedule since April:
There was a sigh of relief as the computer photographed below worked once again. That is the single most significant memory I treasure most throughout the rough battle that is my career. Moments like that carry me through the stresses of things going wrong, embarrassing myself, general failures, and those moments of self doubt where I really screwed up. When you help others and hear those sighs of relief, treasure them! While not a superhero…
We only have a finite amount of time in life. Every minute you spend on one idea, project, or person detracts from another possibility. I have over 20 reviews I’ve been considering writing lately. Some may come to fruition, others, not. The list of reviews I’m most interested in writing in some form or another is a tie-in to a new project I’ve joined that may lead to more success than completing any of these reviews.
I don’t pull punches with people I respect. It’s better that you know how you can improve than to leave it lingering in the background like some sort of stench you can’t smell. Unless, of course, I know you’re particularly sensitive to the idea of any constructive criticism, in which case I’ll politely guide you. These sprites of the main characters of An Insurmountable Odd wouldn’t exist if not for honest feedback. Don’t fear criticism.
Many of these Applied Psychology posts could be summarized as confronting the deviations of humanity. Analyzing how individuals acted in specific situations. Properly fighting back. Tactics for observing manipulation then either overcoming or avoiding succumbing to abuse. Bettering one’s self. Working through emotions that don’t serve you in a productive way. Living life successfully. I’ve occasionally included mortality into the mix, so let’s broadly consider the one topic we may not be able to fix.
One of the more annoying communication mistakes people make is talking too much. It took me years to understand that. Some close friends told me I talked too much. I couldn’t understand… I just had to tell you every intricate detail about something. It’s important! I was finally able to trap my audience, so they were gonna hear what I had to say! Well, I’ve started practicing civil dialogues as opposed to overwhelming monologues. How?
“A lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.” I saw that on a sign on the first day of my first job, and though I’ve accidentally excused myself and others from that rule, it’s overall been my career’s guiding principle. Tasks take time. For last minute work, I will do the work “to the best of my ability” within the time available, and will strongly guide future timeframes.