[The Story] Strong Personality Conflicts

As much as I’d like seeing “The Story” become an idyllic fairytale hosting an idealized couple, I know there will be conflicts between Trishna (left, bottom) and John, if only because both are fiercely independent. Their conflicts, expressed more fluidly with G.I. Joe’s Scarlett and Dr. Mindbender below, might only be minor. They are such close friends, after all, and as a result have enormous respect for each other. Or maybe they’ll encounter larger conflicts?

Spoiler Warning Scale: Minor (character development)
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[Applied Psychology] Enjoying Abrasive Music

“You can listen to whatever you want in the [float] tank.” My thoughts immediately went to grindcore band Wormrot. I prepped their 2016 album Voices [shown below, left] for my next session. When the album queued up, after Runaljod: Ragnarok by Wardruna concluded, what an incredibly subversive moment! Twenty-six minutes later, I gained a deeper appreciation for some of the most abrasive music I’ve found outside atonal noise music. What’s the appeal? Isn’t pop music nicer?

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[Applied Psychology] Working Through Unmotivation

Even when we know our successes are completely based on the effort we give, and we fully understand the fragility of life, there are still days and moments where it’s difficult to put in the work. We get sick, tired, and lazy. It is easier to idle. That’s when I think about how wasted time ends up disappearing forever and writing during those moments where I’ve felt unmotivated have led to some really inspirational stuff.


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[Applied Psychology] Body Language: Interest

In our previous dialogue concerning body language, we considered three subjective ways to read nonverbal communication when people are disinterested in what we’re saying. How about gauging interest? Remember, this isn’t a syntaxical language like sign language. It’s tricky reading between the lines because people can multi-thread attention, appearing distracted while paying attention, or feign interest. Here are three clues that someone is probably invested in your topic of conversation or faking it well enough.

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[Applied Psychology] Body Language: Disinterest

Body language is an unreliable subtext within the art of communication. When we speak or write, we convey our intent in usually logical language. Nonverbal communication is visceral, emotional, and something we emit constantly. We are never not nonverbally communicating. If we can read the occasional nonverbal cue, then we can gauge the interest of others, without having to ask them directly. We’ll cover three main examples below. Just remember, these are more general implications.

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[Applied Psychology] Preventing Boiling Points

They say the best way to boil a lobster is placing it in water and turning up the temperature. The lobster builds tolerance to the increasing water temperature before succumbing. We’re the same. We let stressful situations build until we reach our boiling point and then we become the figurative dinner of our stressors. Since we can’t live a completely sheltered life to avoid stress, we must recognize when we’re thrown into the metaphorical water.

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[Applied Psychology] 100 Post Milestone

If I learned only one thing after writing one hundred posts, it’s the value of doing the work. You can aim for good enough or perfect- just don’t let either consume you. Don’t let your mind obsess over improving the past. Saw flaws in your past work? Good! That means you’re improving. Don’t cringe, feeling defeated. Keep practicing! The tools you’ll build or discover along the way, like these toys, will develop your future work:

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[Applied Psychology] Kill False Elements

“You’re still here?” People will get under your skin no matter what you do, or how many barriers you put up. They’ll try to find a way to break you down to your core. To manipulate you. They’ll try to break into your mind palace to destroy it. That’s unless you know yourself and have removed false elements of your personality that you can’t completely own. The insecure bits that might leave you feeling vulnerable.

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[Event Review] Lake City Toy Show (Spring 2017)

Vendors at Renton City Retro told me about Seattle’s hidden collecting secret for the last twenty-two* years: Lake City Toy Show. Unlike the more mainstream retro show that had videogames, action figures, and other fun activities, this was where you’d find anything more obscure. Cool for serious collectors. How about for everyone else? If you were in the area for the car show, or happened through town in the early afternoon, was there anything worthwhile?

Rating for collectors: ★★★★☆ [4/5], otherwise: ★★★☆☆ [3/5]
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[Applied Psychology] Our Identity Baskets

We typically base ourselves on one main variable. It’s easier to say, “I’m a X,” where X is a professional, recreational, or familial role you play because it’s cumbersome to say, “Z, O, M, B, I, E, P, A, PE, and R equals me!” We’ll forget about those variables when stress hits us. It’s like putting all your eggs in one “identity basket.” When that basket or one variable falters, everything crashes. Don’t let it!

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