[Applied Self-Confidence] Focusing on Goals

As soon as I realized my current goal, writing “The Story,” things fell into place. I stopped wasting time with things I didn’t care about. I reinvested in my health. Your goals don’t have to be lofty! Let’s revisit last week’s Dr. Mindbender, photographed below. His goal is just to play this Pac-Man arcade cabinet. While playing, he might notice people laughing at him. He doesn’t care. He’s focused on his goals!

 Focus on yours!

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[Applied Self-Confidence] Trust In Yourself!

I used to consider other people’s opinions of me when considering my self worth. If the group liked me, then I liked me. If a group had a problem with me, then I needed to address that along with nine unrelated problems. On the surface, that should be easy to identify as false, yet we all do it. If there’s one thing I can stress in the realm of self-confidence, it’s this:

Trust in yourself!

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[Bettering Zeal] Light Box Lighting

The renovation focus for my hyperfunctional office, dubbed “Zeal,” is about shining light on hindrances. This renovation project has enabled me to jump from “aha moments” to production quicker each week. Since each writing upload on this website relies on visual elements to punctuate my thoughts, lighting accidentally became a hindrance if I wanted to photograph something in my lightbox. Now I can quickly photograph a thought, then focus on writing, without trivial photographic distractions.

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[The Story] Materialism and Minimalism

Whether or not you’re weighed down by material possessions may depend on your perception of their usefulness as tools. I find value in tools that I haven’t used in four months, like Dr. Mindbender here, or even four years. Others may find hindrance with those older tools. Let’s explore the material perceptions of the main characters of “The Story,” since Trishna (left) grew up in a decently comfortable middle-class family and John starkly did not.

Spoiler Warning Scale: Minor (backstory, general worldbuilding, and something sexy)
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[The Story] Strong Personality Conflicts

As much as I’d like seeing “The Story” become an idyllic fairytale hosting an idealized couple, I know there will be conflicts between Trishna (left, bottom) and John, if only because both are fiercely independent. Their conflicts, expressed more fluidly with G.I. Joe’s Scarlett and Dr. Mindbender below, might only be minor. They are such close friends, after all, and as a result have enormous respect for each other. Or maybe they’ll encounter larger conflicts?

Spoiler Warning Scale: Minor (character development)
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[Applied Psychology] Enjoying Abrasive Music

“You can listen to whatever you want in the [float] tank.” My thoughts immediately went to grindcore band Wormrot. I prepped their 2016 album Voices [shown below, left] for my next session. When the album queued up, after Runaljod: Ragnarok by Wardruna concluded, what an incredibly subversive moment! Twenty-six minutes later, I gained a deeper appreciation for some of the most abrasive music I’ve found outside atonal noise music. What’s the appeal? Isn’t pop music nicer?

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[Applied Psychology] Working Through Unmotivation

Even when we know our successes are completely based on the effort we give, and we fully understand the fragility of life, there are still days and moments where it’s difficult to put in the work. We get sick, tired, and lazy. It is easier to idle. That’s when I think about how wasted time ends up disappearing forever and writing during those moments where I’ve felt unmotivated have led to some really inspirational stuff.


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[Applied Psychology] Body Language: Interest

In our previous dialogue concerning body language, we considered three subjective ways to read nonverbal communication when people are disinterested in what we’re saying. How about gauging interest? Remember, this isn’t a syntaxical language like sign language. It’s tricky reading between the lines because people can multi-thread attention, appearing distracted while paying attention, or feign interest. Here are three clues that someone is probably invested in your topic of conversation or faking it well enough.

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[Applied Psychology] Body Language: Disinterest

Body language is an unreliable subtext within the art of communication. When we speak or write, we convey our intent in usually logical language. Nonverbal communication is visceral, emotional, and something we emit constantly. We are never not nonverbally communicating. If we can read the occasional nonverbal cue, then we can gauge the interest of others, without having to ask them directly. We’ll cover three main examples below. Just remember, these are more general implications.

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[Applied Psychology] Preventing Boiling Points

They say the best way to boil a lobster is placing it in water and turning up the temperature. The lobster builds tolerance to the increasing water temperature before succumbing. We’re the same. We let stressful situations build until we reach our boiling point and then we become the figurative dinner of our stressors. Since we can’t live a completely sheltered life to avoid stress, we must recognize when we’re thrown into the metaphorical water.

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