Don’t run from your pain! Whether it’s a something physical like an injury or something mental like ennui, learn to embrace that pain. Pain will remind you of your motivations more than the seduction of any numbing pleasure. Pain will be with you always. Pleasure is fleeting and addicting. Pleasure will leave you in both your darkest hours and when everything seems wonderful, whereas when disciplined properly, pain will be motivation toward achieving your goals.
I used to consider other people’s opinions of me when considering my self worth. If the group liked me, then I liked me. If a group had a problem with me, then I needed to address that along with nine unrelated problems. On the surface, that should be easy to identify as false, yet we all do it. If there’s one thing I can stress in the realm of self-confidence, it’s this:
Trust in yourself!
Personality tests are fun pseudo-scientific sociology exercises to help people explain themselves to others. I can empathize with a few. Their major problem is that they restrict each tester into a personality box where they are only their test result. In this week’s update to “The Story,” along with a casual Applied Psychology entry, let’s explore why. I’ll use the main characters John and Trishna as examples, factoring in the psychological importance of “breaking character.”
If there’s only one benefit with waking up early, as you peer through the obscuring trees of your mind’s doubts telling you to go back to sleep, it’s getting your shot to advance at something. Maybe it’s preparing for an interview, attending a meeting with an important customer, or refining a skill. I’ve found that my motivations to rise to any challenge of getting any shot goes away when I sleep in. Why is that?
Punctuating brave, loving, and violent moments somewhere in “The Story” is a quiet scene that’s lingered in my head for years. John (driving) and Trishna are driving along and nothing exciting happens. No car accident or argument. Just a close couple going toward their mutual goal. In this week’s brainstorming update, let’s cover some of how they’ll arrive at their motivation, because while you can have any goal you want, it’s all about getting there.
Spoiler Warning Scale: Minor (background character development)
WANNA SEE SOME OF THE MECHANICS OF WHAT DRIVES THESE CHARACTERS? KEEP ON READING!
GUITAR WOLF’s concert in 2013 was a defining moment with my work ethic. Before that show, I was an unmotivated zombie that had dreams yet was blocked by my complaining. After seeing their work ethic, evident by the sweat soaking into the stage, something clicked! Eventually, I realized that only through full zealousness to your ideal work can you achieve anything other than an unfulfilled life. It wasn’t an overnight change, so let’s explore the details.