While painting this inconsequential accent wall, I thought about how Trishna (left) and John (right) might paint in “The Story.” Trishna might lock her breaks, dip her roller with extension pole into a paint tray, paint one section, move, and repeat. John might then get the finer details along the corners. Since painting takes preparation, planning – and when working with others, teamwork, collaboration, and delegation of duties – how well would they handle any possible friction?
Spoiler Warning Scale: Minor (character development)
Here’s the major point of friction:
John freely admits “I don’t feel comfortable bossing Trishna around.” He has no problem being confrontational to people that are rude to him and has no problem standing up to bullies. It’s just that he doesn’t want to be rude to Trishna, so he overcorrects during the first year of their relationship. Especially after he upsets her for presenting the idea that she might not be able to do something. (I’m still working on the details of this pivotal scene.)
To whom does he admit this overcorrection?
Trishna’s older brother Fearghal. After Trishna’s father Divit, Fearghal is the primary farm hand on the family farm. During a break repainting some room, Fearghal notices the hesitation in communication, where John might have been too anxious to simply say: “Hey Trishna, let me know when you’re about done with a section, so I can refill your paint tray.” John admits he’s doesn’t want to be rude to Trishna so didn’t address this inefficiency.
This delicately reveals a study of relationships and communication.
Fearghal takes on the role of a mentoring older brother(-in-law) and helps John through some of his concerns. John hadn’t grown up with much of a family so his points of reference are sometimes way off. He had never really collaborated with anyone before, so he didn’t know that most people are completely fine with being delegated tasks, working over and around others, just as long as there’s a level of respect and guidance toward the goal.
Trishna’s parents also help with this.
They might explain how some friction within a relationship is natural. While there can be some pre-emptive thought over how the other might think of a question or topic, it’s just as valuable is just to broach the topic politely. With that paint tray refilling example, perhaps a more open-ended question could suffice, in lieu of a deeper conversation about direct communication, overanalysis, and what might constitute rude or ‘bossy’ behavior.
Trishna’s family might have just accepted she’s overly defensive.
This and other prompts should lead to heartfelt conversations between Trishna and John addressing their deepest concerns over what ails them the most. They’ll save those conversations for their leisure time. Before the room is completely painted, they’ll probably become comfortable trading duties, with Trishna sitting on the floor getting in bottom edge of the wall, while John balances the extension roller to get the top edge of the wall.
While idyllic, I imagine that they handle most friction well.
|Sources: My experiences painting by myself and with others.
Inspirations: Wondering: ‘how would they paint?’ Then ‘what trouble would they get themselves into?’
Photo: As an inconsequential note, I didn’t have any green “roller” bricks, so maybe they’re painting over the green with white-tone primer paint?