During photography for an upcoming Daredevil action figure review, I lost grip of my lamp, and knocked over most of the toys. It happens. Nothing broke. Just extra reposing time. This was becoming a trend, so I said “enough!,” and realized a way to prop up the lamp. Easy enough. It’s just all too often, I think we wait well past that moment of frustration to consider our foundation. Shall we muse on cementing baselines?
Insecurity probably occurs when we don’t have a solid understanding of who we are and what we’re trying to do.
I was insecure about collecting action figures and sharing other interests for the longest time, and still am somewhat. Toys are culturally perceived as childish. Yet if I enjoy having physical representations of characters I like, and am now able to start using them as storytelling tools, are they still childish? Who am I trying to win over by justifying my concerns? The judgemental parents of children? Acquaintances? Myself?
There it is.
Why am I concerned about my opinions of this hobby? Is it because I’m too wrapped up around the idea that the toy aisle or toy stores are for kids? Am I still the same kid that enjoyed X-Men and GI Joes? Aren’t there others that unrepentantly enjoy going around to various stores in search of characters they want represented in plastic? If there are, then why be concerned about what other people think?
That might explain the success of the incidental cultural and feminist movement of grown men enjoying My Little Pony. Societal structures force certain ideas that X can’t watch Y, A can’t do B, and only Z can do Z. The other controlling what the self should or shouldn’t do limits us from enjoying harmless activities. When does my enjoying something truly prevent a target audience member from enjoying it?
Other than buying the last Daredevil, there shouldn’t be any concern.
That line of inquiry was slightly cathartic. It helped further refine my baseline in this situation and wasn’t obvious because I didn’t have an “enough!” moment. It’s also common that there isn’t a particular breaking point. Obscure hobbies, things we can change about our appearance like clothing or hair, and our perception of things in this world can be obscured by the judgement of others if we let insecurities seep in.
Sometimes it’s good worrying about what others think or taking in feedback and sometimes it’s destructive and goes against self-autonomy.
The best compromise might be:
- State a situation that causes you minor concern.
- Think about your options:
- What can you change?
- What can’t you change?
- What do you like about it?
- What do you dislike about it?
- How urgent is the issue?
- What minor changes can be done to change the issue?
- Keep refining this process until you find something that works.
Even if it’s as simple as clearing a shelf for a lamp.