“I end up lashing out at him because he’s the one closest to me.” When we finally express our anger, it’s rarely that event actually breaking our figurative back. It’s the combination of stresses that cause us to lash out: irate people, heavy traffic, prolonged multitasking, sleep deprivation, and infinitely more. Rather than medicate with negative solutions, how about some healthy ways to proactively take control of your anger before you lash out at others?
It’s all about pouring your anger into something productive.
Exercising Stress Demons
I threw everything into rowing this evening. I’m feeling great now. Completely relaxed. I don’t see exercise as a negative experience anymore because I’m not a victim to my fitness. I pour my anger into my exercise, to almost literally exorcise my stress demons, where I’ll fully revisit the aches and pains of regretful situations. It’s physical and mental therapy. Find something that you throw your nervous energy into that can help you become healthier.
Physically Pleasant Activities
Showering, bathing, or floating can help calm you down and relax your tense muscles. Eat a balanced meal until you’re satiated. Drink more water. Close your eyes for a minute, and leave a timer going in case you fall asleep after 30 seconds. If the anger hasn’t quite manifested yet, walk around to take your mind off the day. If it has, see if getting away from your current surroundings for a little while will help.
Lashing Out Digitally
Escapist activities can help. It’s just a matter of making sure that you’re not spending too much of your time, say, playing videogames. You don’t want to neglect your duties. The aim is to remedy the anger directly rather than let it escalate. After calming that tense pang of anger, you can work toward addressing that lingering sense of disdain. Otherwise, you’re fixing an emotional problem logically. If you’re angry, you’re typically not thinking logically.
Working On Projects
I try to write at least 500 words a day. Besides to fulfill my ambitions, writing is a way for me to express my thoughts that might otherwise linger, and when I edit my writing or later read over what I wrote, I can pick up on word choice to see if I was particularly angry. If so, then usually it’s helpful. Maybe find creative outlets for your anger that could also be helpful long term?
Planning Escape Routes
When all else fails, if you find yourself constantly frustrated with situations, maybe you’re not in the right spot? If that’s the case, it’s time to move on. Don’t just jump to the next available sinking ship! You want to really sort out what’s causing this dissatisfaction and anger. You should know your stress points so well that can spot anything that might even remotely aggravate you before a potential situation can strike you down.
The only one really impacted by your anger is you. Everyone else receives your anger. You have to live with the choices you made while angry.