I was feeling stressed out until Gogol Bordello kicked into the chorus of “Break the Spell,” just as I’m usually always despondent after hearing bad news, until I breathe in deeply and accept the circumstance. No one died, nor will die because of this. It’s unfortunate, sure, but that makes for good writing fodder, so get over it! That’s not meant to be callous or superficial. It’s just acceptance is the first step toward resolution.
A gig didn’t work out.
That’s too bad. There were some nice perks, some disadvantages, and some potentially terrible undercurrents. You know what isn’t bad? My current life situation. This may have overwhelmed me for a few minutes/hours today. Years ago, it would have been days of thoroughly feeling terrible.
Now it’s writing fodder. Time to move.
Reach out to more people. See what’s out there. Plan. Good thing I always keep my options open. There should always be a backup plan, emergency fund, and alternatives. Never rely on one source. Plan for the worst, hope for the best, and roll with the punches. The cancellation was outside my control.
My attitude is inside of my control. Yours too.
When you get bad news, celebrate what you do have, with the worse the tragedy the bigger the celebration. You’re not celebrating that it happened. You shouldn’t only be merry in response to times of sorrow. You just need to quickly pull yourself up and through this. Don’t allow it to sink your ship.
Stay upright and sail on.
If that means rest, nap for a few before getting back up and marching forward. Exercise to relieve the physical tension, chat with friends to overcome the emotional tension, but don’t overdo it. Don’t complain without hearing potential results. Don’t vent without purpose. The goal is getting better.
Back on your feet!
Shine brighter than before the event. Don’t give into the comfortable weakness that being a victim might provide, for it is a fantastic farce full of false fallacies. It may feel comfortable. It will lead to misery. Instead, push forward through the emotion, adversity, and pains of your temporary sorrows.
Think about what you do have.
Since you’re reading this, you probably have access to basic amenities. What has been taken away from you can be returned. Maybe not all of it. It could be a different gig or friendship. Maybe that which left cannot be replaced. If it is a death, remember the good, and proceed on. They would’ve wanted that.
What they wouldn’t want is your sorrow.
If you must sacrifice your time for atonement, do what you feel will help others, otherwise, get over it! Move on from this tragedy. More will come. Events will break you down more than you will ever know. You can sulk in misery or remember that our heroes have overcome far, far worse.
Do what you must to right yourself.
Then help others right themselves.
In turn, they can help you get over it in time.
Inspirations: My life’s experiences
Photos: The first shot was taken while writing. I needed to disembark for the rest of my adventure, so the second shot interjects where I had to stop writing. The third shot was taken where I finished writing this essay.