[Applied Self-Confidence] Perfection and Efficiencies

It took me years to come to terms with my addiction to perfection. I would only want to consume good media and consuming bad media would make me feel terrible. I’ve now come to accept what is merely good enough by sifting through the inefficient moments of imperfection in media, and especially life, to find those useful nuggets of information. Drop it if it has no immediate redeeming value. Accept its faults and press on!

Every draft isn’t good.

Sometimes, you just can’t save a paragraph you wrote, so should you try to hold onto it because it was “the perfect idea?” Should you wait until you can phrase a question correctly before you ask it in a class? Do we need to leave at just the optimal time of day before our next appointment, or, can we arrive a little early?

I think we’re taught to obsess over perfection.

Sure, a B is inferior to an A, but if every student were to receive an A even without earning it, how much value would that grade hold? There should be inferior grades, media, and anything in life to add spice and variety to anything. Is it better to get a C in a class where you learned a significant amount or an A in a class that taught you nothing?

If we just look at grades, then sure, only As.

When I review stuff, I don’t mind 4s or the occasional 3-star item. Even a 2-star or 0-star can have its value! You can learn to appreciate what you cherish more thoroughly as you’re suffering through what you hate. That is: if you ask yourself why you’re reacting the way you are toward those things. You may even get a change of heart.

Now there are things I have exacting tolerances toward.

Certain things in life must approach perfection through their consistency and reliability. These should primarily be for survival purposes. If my rowing machine breaks in a nasty way, it could hurt. But with a bad videogame? Get rid of it! If everyone loves it except for you, listen to their perspective. If their argument is sound, it might be worth revisiting, and if not then you’ve gained perspective. It’s valuable either way.

I’m not too worried about perfection or efficiencies overall.

When it comes to my work, sure, I have high expectations. It’s just now that I’ve accepted that I am not always going to produce 5-star work, I’ll work with what I’ve got. If it sucks, but it’s got a point, I’ll complete it. This essay took me a while to write because I couldn’t quite figure out the visual component to it.

We have plenty of excuses like that to prevent us from doing things.

I’m beginning to realize that we only get one opportunity for most things. You might only get to talk to that one person once in your entire life.

Will I waste that moment waiting for the perfect thing to say?

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Sources: My personal experiences
Inspirations: My considerations about perfection. There is a jarring juxtaposition in how I approach perfection. I wrote about my past writing priorities, mainly writing reviews and commentaries, in April. I completed this essay focusing on my current writing priorities – fiction, analyzing conversations, and commentaries on reality – in June. Though not much time, these two months were a pivotal change for me getting this website focused on my writing goals, rather than just writing easy junk.
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Photo: A sunrise cutting through powerlines.
Written On: April 20th, June 9th
Last Edited: June 9th
My big goal is writing. My most important goal is writing "The Story." All other goals should work toward that central goal. My proudest moment is the most recent time I overcame some fear, which should have been today. I'm a better zombie than I was yesterday. I'm not better than you and you're not better than me. Let's strive to be better every day.