Just as dehydration wilts a flower, complaining wilts a conversation. Maybe faster? We might complain to express displeasure aspects of a current situation. It’s alright if you’re looking for possible solution. If not, if you’re just looking to spread negativity and hatred, get out! Just get your mind straight! Complaining is oppressive, disrespectful, yet with accepting any little help, you could start fixing it. It’s terrible being on the receiving end of complaining without acting.
When will I throw out my favorite hoodie? It will take over 2 hours to sew its disintegrating seams. My concert hoodie could replace it, or I could find another. I have too many positive memories wearing it to destroy it. So will I keep repairing it until there’s nothing left? Is there a definitive point when we should destroy the things that served us before in favor of things that could serve us more efficiently?
We’re living such fast paced lives that when we get any opportunity just to relax, it almost seems we take it too far with relaxation compensation. What would just be moments of recreation turns into hours, days, or lifetimes spent doing nothing particularly productive. Years ago, I could do “nothing” all day. Now, I’ll find something to do if I’m idle more than 15_minutes. I’ll do something physical, nap, or as I’m doing now: write.
“We thought he was with you!” The suave, unkempt man had seen through another magician’s tricks and narrated each step of the trick. He traveled the world, going to cool shows, and “usually, you can get cheap tickets the day of the show. I got these two for free.” After realizing what was going on, I asked the scalper: “How do you pick your marks? What traits do you look for?” He left. Here’s why:
I’m paid to help people through their weaknesses. It’s positive when we break through a problem, I see or hear the relief, and maybe become friends. It’s negative because I am constantly criticized by others. My customers want it done quicker, my team doesn’t want to deal with it, and management doesn’t want to deal with it. Dealing with friction has helped me realize my strengths and weaknesses. Here’s the framework of what I learned:
I don’t engage in small talk. What’s the point of communicating irrelevant information? A seemingly trivial diagnostic question I will use is “how’s it going?” Most people will use that cue to tell me everything about a current pain point they’re either consciously or subconsciously trying to overcome. Since they complained to me, I’ll coax out hidden information to help guide or push them toward an optimal resolution. Here’s some of what I might do:
If there’s one concept I mastered within this field, it’s being able to quickly gauge how severely a situation might impact other people, while keeping myself removed from the emotional weight of unfortunate situation. I can fully empathize that a person has lost hours of time, however, I don’t let any sympathetic emotions overwhelm me. We’re all victims of circumstances. So, if you’d rather keep complaining about situations without trying to change, don’t read below.
Don’t let lulls in conversation overwhelm you. Most are innocent enough. You’re conversing, the topic runs out, then there’s what feels like an awkward silence that needs to be filled with any noise, so you might rush to fill the air with any topic you can think of immediately. Don’t! Let conversations rest and breathe. In less innocent conversations, like negotiation or dealing with manipulative individuals, filling air superfluously will put you at a disadvantage.
My self-confidence was in shambles over 4 years ago. Between sobriety, encounters with possibly thousands of stressful people including one abusive manager that would psychologically harass me so much during weekly Friday meetings that I’d leave feeling absolutely worthless, and generally picking up the pieces of my life, I’m in a better spot now. Celebrating those Fridays, let’s consider self-confidence weekly, starting with perhaps the strongest mantra you can apply: you deserve any spot you choose.
Working solo allows you the complete freedom to make projects exactly as you please. Team projects still allow comfortable freedom. It’s just you trade absolute authority for coproductive collaboration. Teammates might have skills you don’t have or haven’t learned, while others have skills that can help develop your potential. Within the Blah Blah group, some can program, while others were helping troubleshoot narrative aspects of the Story Mode so we can deliver a better project:
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Maturity warning: safe reading, folks
WANNA BROADLY CONSIDER HOW PROJECTS CAN DEVELOP DIFFERENTLY IN TEAMS? KEEP ON READING!