I think we complain when we’re too emotionally invested in some logical frustration. It’s the thorn in the side except we’re so overwhelmed by the situation that we don’t know what to do. Certainly not letting others help! We might even lash out against them. It’s natural and cathartic to complain to others. It’s just that we should always try to complain to attain remedies to our ailments, rather than repeatedly replay our dissatisfactions, infinitely.
If I learned only one thing after writing one hundred posts, it’s the value of doing the work. You can aim for good enough or perfect- just don’t let either consume you. Don’t let your mind obsess over improving the past. Saw flaws in your past work? Good! That means you’re improving. Don’t cringe, feeling defeated. Keep practicing! The tools you’ll build or discover along the way, like these toys, will develop your future work:
“You’re still here?” People will get under your skin no matter what you do, or how many barriers you put up. They’ll try to find a way to break you down to your core. To manipulate you. They’ll try to break into your mind palace to destroy it. That’s unless you know yourself and have removed false elements of your personality that you can’t completely own. The insecure bits that might leave you feeling vulnerable.
We typically base ourselves on one main variable. It’s easier to say, “I’m a X,” where X is a professional, recreational, or familial role you play because it’s cumbersome to say, “Z, O, M, B, I, E, P, A, PE, and R equals me!” We’ll forget about those variables when stress hits us. It’s like putting all your eggs in one “identity basket.” When that basket or one variable falters, everything crashes. Don’t let it!
The disheveled cosplayer clamored about being hungry and found a chair inside the booth, swearing at nobody and engaging with anybody. “He must be on something!” While that was the weirdest event from Sakura-Con, I don’t want to be judgemental. We should try to help others. It’s important to determine when psychological issues others display are harmless or harmful, then act appropriately. I’ve summarized potential options both in this photo and in the full article.
The best way to overcome bad news is to sit down with the problem, brainstorm myriad possible solutions, and try some out. The scientific method, basically. It’s just too bad that doesn’t usually happen, since as human beings full of conflicting emotions that almost actively reject logic and reason, we tend to get so hung up on that one problem that it permeates every facet of our lives preventing us from shifting gears into solution mode. Why?
If you want to study human psychology, start with dogs. Imagine psychology as a series of if-then-else patterns, where you say or do something to a human they might react in hundreds of different ways and dogs might just have a handful. So when we dressed up my childhood dog Patrick in an old shirt and he looked particularly happy, that wasn’t just him smiling for the camera.
There’s a poignant moment in a video about Smiley, an aging golden retriever, where after telling the audience about how he’s growing older, Smiley’s owner asks her son if the dog will live forever, and he naively responds yes. Digitally, perhaps. Smiley in some large way reminds me of my childhood dog Patrick, quickly becoming the accidental mascot of this section, and though this was something I learned long after he’d passed, Patrick taught me the value of morality.
Most “nice” people seem so worried about offending others that they’re willing to get walked over to avoid any conflict before exploding in uncontrolled anger. I’ve been guilty of that. In recent years especially, I’ve been trying to improve, so I’ve been thinking about how to hold true to your beliefs while adapting to the world. Taking a lesson from my childhood dog Patrick, I think I’ve found the middle ground.