Don’t let lulls in conversation overwhelm you. Most are innocent enough. You’re conversing, the topic runs out, then there’s what feels like an awkward silence that needs to be filled with any noise, so you might rush to fill the air with any topic you can think of immediately. Don’t! Let conversations rest and breathe. In less innocent conversations, like negotiation or dealing with manipulative individuals, filling air superfluously will put you at a disadvantage.
Working solo allows you the complete freedom to make projects exactly as you please. Team projects still allow comfortable freedom. It’s just you trade absolute authority for coproductive collaboration. Teammates might have skills you don’t have or haven’t learned, while others have skills that can help develop your potential. Within the Keyboard Kommander group, William can program, while Rajas is helping troubleshoot narrative aspects of the Story Mode so we can deliver a better project:
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Maturity warning: safe reading, folks
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“Let’s make a list of everything that’s been happening. We’ll iron the issues out one-by-one.” “Let me just tell you the truth. This thing is a piece of…” That’s my cue that the issue is not technical. We aren’t troubleshooting a technical issue, per se, instead I’ve stepped into the role of therapist helping ease the technojunkie’s technological anxiety. Without getting into specifics, here are five strategies I’ve used to talk people off their cliffs.
In last week’s brainstorming update to “The Story,” I covered how main characters Trishna and John (left) would clash. Even the most connected people clash, after all, especially when both are fiercely independent. It’s about balance: if one is more comfortable jumping into the fray than thoroughly researching, let them perform their strengths to build a more cohesive team. Let’s see how they solve problems, and how teams solve problems, in this Applied Psychology crossover:
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“Over analysis leads to analysis paralysis.” The main problem with overanalyzing is that you don’t realize when you’re already sinking into analysis paralysis. In moderation, analysis is a fundamental tool in self-development, helping you prevent repeating similar mistakes. It’s just that we’re too critical of ourselves, often to the point of being critical before we even receive that missing piece of information to complete the analysis feedback loop. One quote helps me mute that noise:
Compared to last week when I obliterated my anaerobic times, I ramped down. I could blame external frustrations like a float tank session leaving me uncharacteristically stiff, dealing with bad news, feeling ill, or prioritizing my time in the mostly sedentary sport of writing. It’s good to acknowledge those excuses. It’s better to prevent excuses from reaching your goals. Dust them off, like my rowing machine below, and let’s brainstorm some ideas to get back to it!
The best way to overcome bad news is to sit down with the problem, brainstorm myriad possible solutions, and try some out. The scientific method, basically. It’s just too bad that doesn’t usually happen, since as human beings full of conflicting emotions that almost actively reject logic and reason, we tend to get so hung up on that one problem that it permeates every facet of our lives preventing us from shifting gears into solution mode. Why?