A useful idea in overcoming mental anxiety is the mind palace. Let it be a comfortable structure, holding the sum of all of your acquired knowledge, where people may decorate and reside in their own room. These perceptions of people could be close family, good friends, single-serving friends, inspirational figures, imaginary characters, or sworn enemies. You make the house rules and you’re the landlord. Shouldn’t the first rule be forbidding enemies from attempting mental trespassing?
Anything can be stressful, it’s just a matter of preventing those stressful thoughts from lingering in your mind. Let’s use a cooking analogy: your mind is like an oven. That oven “holds” your interpretations of past thoughts, heats new thoughts that you’re working on, and prepares future thoughts you’d like to try. The unfortunate thing is that your mind’s oven doesn’t have a way to prevent you from cooking stressful, negative memories. Or does it?
The mind, for most, has taken priority over the body. The advantages are plenty. Technological activities are sugar-rushes of cerebral entertainment infinitely more exciting than our drab world. Those with physical impairments can now join in, whereas even 20 years ago, social ostracization was normal. The disadvantages are also plenty. The ailments some encounter could result from our sedentary lifestyles. The mind/body imbalance. The wasted potential. The body, for most, has become a rusty tool.
There was a sigh of relief as the computer photographed below worked once again. That is the single most significant memory I treasure most throughout the rough battle that is my career. Moments like that carry me through the stresses of things going wrong, embarrassing myself, general failures, and those moments of self doubt where I really screwed up. When you help others and hear those sighs of relief, treasure them! While not a superhero…
“I end up lashing out at him because he’s the one closest to me.” When we finally express our anger, it’s rarely that event actually breaking our figurative back. It’s the combination of stresses that cause us to lash out: irate people, heavy traffic, prolonged multitasking, sleep deprivation, and infinitely more. Rather than medicate with negative solutions, how about some healthy ways to proactively take control of your anger before you lash out at others?
“I’m really sorry. I thought it was…” Regret, for me, is when the overwhelming gravity of a situation takes fold. Missing an appointment, making a social mistake, breaking something, making something worse, or infinite other situations. Regret might be our way of analyzing the situation to prevent it from reoccurring. That over-analysis can consume us. Instead, I have a couple steps that help me overcome that overwhelming sense of regret that happens frequently in life.
This series, examining the roots of everyday situations called Applied Psychology, arose from my nickname for the technical support field. We signed up for the idea of working on computers. What most didn’t realize was that it’s all, and not mostly, about working on the people that use these computers. We’re like casual psychologists, fixing behavior problems before addressing the technical side of the issue. Let’s muse on some ideas for resolving minor nontechnical anxieties.
Most people meditate to clear their minds of thoughts. I meditate to defragment the thoughts in my mind that chatter. I organize the idle ideas that linger loudly. Float tanks are specialized daydreaming spots for me, like the Hyperbolic Time Chamber in Dragon Ball Z, because that hour or four you’ve booked is reserved for you tending to your thoughts. Sensory deprivation chambers can be overwhelming if you’re not fully ready to declutter your mind.
Compared to the mad rush to lose weight I had in my mid-20s, which saw me burn off 60 pounds 6 months, my main focus now is general health. Improving my diet. Increasing my mobility, flexibility, and overall endurance. I’ve been feeling better in some areas, while feeling more fatigued in other areas. Despite of all this hard work, even burning 136 (or 33+28+24+24+27) calories on a new rowing machine doesn’t feel like that much progress. Fitness ain’t easy.
I think we complain when we’re too emotionally invested in some logical frustration. It’s the thorn in the side except we’re so overwhelmed by the situation that we don’t know what to do. Certainly not letting others help! We might even lash out against them. It’s natural and cathartic to complain to others. It’s just that we should always try to complain to attain remedies to our ailments, rather than repeatedly replay our dissatisfactions, infinitely.