[The Story] Helping versus Helped

How much give and take should be in any friendship or relationship? For acquaintances or friendships, it’s easy: with just a casual understanding of each other’s general life circumstances, we can broadly discuss difficult subjects in passing. Deeper relationships enrich us, yet, there’s almost too much focus on nuance. In “The Story,” specifically focusing on the relationship of Trishna [left] and John [right], how much of their focus is on the trees or the forest?

Spoilers?: Minor (broadly exploring relationships)

I don’t think they focus on petty disagreements.

In all my years of exploration through the scenes and dialogues of “The Story,” one of the central themes I keep finding is that John really digs Trishna and Trishna really digs John. Their stories may be told, chapter by chapter, swapping perspective, to illustrate that there is no animosity behind their actions in their interactions.

Even still, we hurt those we care about.

A statement said casually as almost an aside could destroy someone we care about that’s not ready to hear or accept it, not because we’re acting out of malice, just that we can see others from a perception they just can’t. Without mirrors, how much of ourselves can we really see? Without others, how much do we know?

That said, I don’t fully buy that ideology.

As much as we are influenced by others, we are most influenced by ourselves. Trishna may have a goal of succeeding in college to get a good job and have a reasonable life, as suggested by her family, but it’s her daily decision to continue buying that dream. John can easily buy into that goal, too.

It’s an easy decision because what else is there?

A life of hard work and overcoming animosity doesn’t seem ideal at first, and yet, there are certain benefits. The closer you get to strangers and the further you get from those you have deep relationships, the more you can find out about yourself, what you really want, and help those who might really need it.

Trishna and John help each other constantly.

In the to-be-written Adolescence Arc of “The Story,” John helps Trishna’s writing abilities when they are preteens chatting online, cities apart, just as Trishna helps John by having her family pick him up after the events of “The Scene.” As their relationship develops, they may fight, as we all do the closer we get.

The more we understand, the less we understand.

Analyzing people, sussing out their deepest secrets, and helping them overcome that which invisibly confines them is a fun party trick. Yet, can we help ourselves just like that? Sure, we just have to be comfortable with these sorts of uncomfortable truths about ourselves that we may want to keep hiding.

Maybe that’s the extent of their relationship?

Both John and Trishna continually experience hardships throughout their lives. Their relationship, then, should be focused on helping each other.

Even if that means helping the other overcome some invisible, silent poison of personality.

Quotes: None.
Sources: The Story’s Imaginarium. Random Word Generator. Digibro’s COMPRESS;decompress video essay.
Inspirations: Besides the obligatory Sherlock Holmes analogy, there is something to be said for writing fiction, namely, that you must observe your surroundings and people to enough of a degree to recreate them with coherent words. Taken along with a casual interest in psychology, constantly applying that psychology to negotiating my way through difficult situations, and meeting enough psychologically deviant people over the years to access the inner conflicts of others, and, it makes for some dense content. It could be more clear. There could be more analogies. Yet I think this is sufficient, shy of this explanation, where I want to conclude with this as a thought: recently, I was talking with someone that has endured much for employment. As our conversation progressed, the hidden question arose: why stay? There was one reason. I hadn’t quite sussed it out to the point of making it an easy statement, and, this person had a sudden decline in health perhaps entirely because of employment. Upon hearing the news, I told our mutual colleague, “I’ve seen this happen too much in this field.” That’s why I keep doing what I’m doing, writing what I write, and live the way I do: to analyze and understand that which consumes and destroys us means helping me from being consumed and destroyed, yes, but hopefully by sharing that which I have learned, I can help others along the way. Now it’s just merely a matter of making my obtuse observations palatable to a wider audience. Or should it? There is no inherent need for a wide audience, other than financial stability, and even then, what is the point of financial stability at the expense of compromise? To help myself to a stressful life when I might perceive it as stressfree? Alright, this tangent has gone on long enough.
Related: Essays building “The Story.”
Above: Trishna helping up John with Pollyanna pushing from behind.
Below: My lightbox, with the LED strip lighting falling down because the tape and glue are not strong enough to hold the lighting. While not in an ideal state, taking five minutes to shoot this photo is a lot easier for me than one hour to draw something with more flavor, thus, LEGO photography and inconsequential photography.
Written On: August 8th [45 minutes]
Last Edited: August 8th [0 minutes]

My big goal is writing. My most important goal is writing "The Story." All other goals should work toward that central goal. My proudest moment is the most recent time I overcame some fear, which should have been today. I'm a better zombie than I was yesterday. I'm not better than you and you're not better than me. Let's strive to be better every day.