[The Story] Strong Personality Conflicts

As much as I’d like seeing “The Story” become an idyllic fairytale hosting an idealized couple, I know there will be conflicts between Trishna (left, bottom) and John, if only because both are fiercely independent. Their conflicts, expressed more fluidly with G.I. Joe’s Scarlett and Dr. Mindbender below, might only be minor. They are such close friends, after all, and as a result have enormous respect for each other. Or maybe they’ll encounter larger conflicts?

Spoiler Warning Scale: Minor (character development)

When They Argue
They don’t argue often. If there is a potential conflict, one would almost immediately relent to the other, because it wouldn’t normally be a big deal if they had one item for dinner instead of another. They know each other’s boundaries on stress. If there’s a large enough concern, they’ll figure out the appropriate time for dialogue- usually after both have calmed down. They’ve accepted most of each other’s personality quirks, with a few exceptions.

Trishna’s Fierce Autonomy
From an early age, Trishna learned to be as self-reliant as possible. She rarely asks for help, even if she needs it, especially early into their relationship. Sometimes, this can be good. Other times, John gets upset if Trishna purposefully avoids asking for help. She might say it’s to prove that she can do anything by herself, though he might be worried she’ll hurt herself. She might accidentally hurt herself once due to overzealous self-reliance.

John’s Emotional Disconnect
John didn’t grow up with familial bonds or even positive authority figures other than Mr. Ebersole. He didn’t learn to express his emotions until he started chatting with Trishna. There might be something wrong, yet John either doesn’t acknowledge it, or chooses to work on it alone. Trishna gets upset, much like John does, if he doesn’t ask for help with something that is overwhelming him. He might get fired for yelling at some boss.

Trishna’s Reckless Ambitions
Trishna studies and works to prove a point. She not only wants to have a good life for herself and John, she also wants to show that she can do anything just as good as anyone else, if not better. She works too hard. John respects this overall, except when she pushes him away to get in that pyrrhic extra hour of studying with no actual gain, or accidentally ignores him over something potentially important.

John’s Accidental Clinginess
From the moment John is taken into Trishna’s family, which will is the narrative’s beginning and for now just called “The Scene,” he works the hardest he can to prove his respect. This might initially take the form of insecurity over being kicked out and might still manifest through their relationship. John isn’t a jealous person and wouldn’t mind Trishna being around people other than himself. Trishna, though, might actively encourage him to loosen up.

Resolving Their Arguments
They operate with respect, compromise, learn to identify when their attitudes could prevent them from finding a good solution, and decide when good enough is perfect.

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